Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy by Samantha Cole
For porn stars, "coming out" is a process that never ends.
To the uninitiated, the idea of a career in the adult film industry may come with stigma that porn performers and sex workers have long fought to shake off. For many, that fight begins with one awkward conversation.
When Coming Out Like a Porn Star was first published in 2015, it garnered cult status as an anthology of candidly intimate essays by diverse adult industry professionals and icons, relating the pain, pride, and surprises that accompanied their experiences coming out about their work. This updated edition includes new essays that explore issues transforming the modern porn field: deepfakes, AI, and OnlyFans; the inequity and fetishization faced by Black, Muslim, queer, disabled, and other marginalized performers; and the everyday, ever-evolving legal injustices compromising sex workers' rights to live, earn, and bank.
Edited by veteran industry professional Jiz Lee, and featuring a new foreword by Samantha Cole, the second edition of Coming Out Like a Porn Star continues to celebrate the rich and varied voices of the adult industry, offering a panoramic view of the world of sex work that has been described in recent years by Melissa Febos, Margo Steines, Charlotte Shane, and Michelle Tea. New contributors include Arabelle Raphael, Jessica Starling, Jet Setting Jasmine, King Noire, Maria Riot, Sinnamon Love, Siri Dahl, and Tyler Knight.
"Someone you love is a sex worker. Part coming out stories, part critique of a culture that expects people to 'come out' about the jobs they do, this is a stunning record of how porn workers make their living and what that means for how they move in the world." --Heather Berg, author of Porn Work: Sex, Labor, and Late Capitalism
"This book delivers puta theory with a revolutionary punch. Revised and expanded to engage the changing tech landscape of porn and politics, it remains an essential tool for learning, teaching, and organizing for liberation." --Juana María Rodríguez, author of Puta Life: Seeing Latinas, Working Sex
"Porn performers are constantly looked at, but rarely actually seen. This collection humanizes the adult industry in ways you can't escape. A much-needed reminder that porn people are people." --Madita Oeming, author of PORN: An Audacious Analysis
"Coming Out Like a Porn Star is a fascinating compendium of how the lives of the people who enter the erotic entertainment industry can change, from the effects such a revelation can have on a person's family and friends, to the legal obstacles that may put a performer, director, or producer in danger of violation of obscenity laws that no one can tell they're violating short of a court trial, to impacts such a revelation may have on whatever activities the person may engage in that are not porn-related--mainstream jobs, romances, parental/sibling relationships, etc.--and how they dealt with them, sometimes in great detail. The contributors to this volume, some of whom are world-renowned, lay out all the joys and shortcomings of their involvement in erotica in fascinating, very personal detail, and as far as I'm concerned, it's a must-read." --Mark Kernes, author of Preachers vs. Porn: Exposing Christianity's War on Sexxx
"There's no substitute for listening to actual sex workers. Their ability to process and recount lived experiences, their individual and collective wisdom, survival skills, passion for activism and mutual aid, and capacity for extremely smart self-reflection would be exemplary for any group of professionals, let alone one that does all this while mainstream/bourgeois/polite society continues trying to marginalize and stigmatize them. With Coming Out Like a Porn Star, Jiz Lee has compiled the most important collection of essays by contemporary adult content professionals, telling it like it is. This updated edition adds necessary layers to its account of a business that is--famously--constantly changing at the speed of technology. Nobody should presume to speak about the complicated topic of pornography without at least considering the rich diversity of experience and thought contained in this book." --Gustavo Turner, news editor at XBIZ
"Groundbreaking, nuanced, and necessary. Jiz Lee's Coming Out Like a Porn Star is one of the most important collections of sex worker writing and theorizing ever to be published." --Lynn Comella, author of Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure
"Essays from those who bare it all, exploring the joys and risks of sharing our secret selves with those we love in order to love them better. Along the way, these stories reveal what it means to be fully, bravely, gorgeously human." --Lola Davina, author of Thriving in Sex Work
"A truly singular, monumentally important work bringing together the wildly varied, comic, passionate, heartbreaking, and inspiring stories of the real people behind the fantasy. At a time when legislators, regulators, banks, courts, tech platforms, and churches are engaged in a seemingly collaborative effort to silence the voices of sex workers, Coming Out Like a Porn Star stands defiant, presenting sex workers on their own terms and in their own voices. More than a book of essays, it's a guidebook for activism, a history of the community, and a testament to how smart, funny, kind, and wonderful the people we work, love, and fight alongside are." --Mike Stabile, director of public policy at the Free Speech Coalition
Paperback / 320 pages